Find your way back to each other.
Couples therapy over video for every kind of relationship, whether you're married, dating, queer, poly, or somewhere in between. Our seasoned therapists help you break out of the same old argument and start hearing each other again.
In network with most major plans
Kaiser, BCBS, United/Optum, PacificSource, Aetna, Moda, Cigna, Puritive, Providence, and EAP plans. Not sure about yours? Text us and we'll check.
So, what is couples therapy?
It's a weekly hour where both of you get heard, guided by a therapist who doesn't take sides.
Every relationship hits rough patches. Trust grows from how you repair afterward, and that's the work we do together. Your therapist helps you spot the patterns that keep pulling you apart, then teaches skills drawn from approaches like Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and CBT so you can support each other better.
We see couples at every stage, from newly dating to decades married, and relationships of every shape, including same-sex, trans, poly, and ENM partnerships. Sessions happen by secure video, so you can join from the same couch or from two different cities.
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Book a free consultation- Communication and conflict
- Trust and intimacy
- Poly and ENM relationships
Small shifts that add up
Relationships change one conversation at a time. A few months into couples therapy, partners tell us they notice things like these.
Conversations stay calmer
You have words for what you need and the patience to hear your partner's side, even on hard topics.
Fights end sooner
Disagreements still happen. You recover faster and repair before resentment builds.
Trust feels steadier
Honesty becomes easier when both of you feel emotionally safe.
Closeness returns
Affection and physical intimacy start to feel natural again.
You feel like a team
You realign on shared values and priorities, and face what life throws at you side by side.
Why people choose Barefoot and Balanced
We're a team of trauma-informed, sex-positive, gender-inclusive therapists with more than twenty years of experience each. We celebrate diversity and authenticity, and we make room for every single story.
Therapy in ASL
A Deaf therapist works with Deaf and Hard of Hearing clients directly in ASL. No interpreter needed.No waitlist
Text us and a person responds, usually the same day.Poly and ENM focused
Your relationship structure is never treated as the problem.Evenings and weekends
Late sessions and Saturday and Sunday times for people whose weekdays are already full.Recovery-informed
Two therapists bring 12-step and substance-use experience.Women in transition
Menopause, divorce, and starting over at any age.End of life therapy
Compassionate support for people facing serious illness & navigating hospice.2SLGBTQIA+ affirming
Queer, trans, nonbinary, Two-Spirit, and questioning clients are welcomed and celebrated here. You will never have to explain or defend who you are.Frequently asked questions
Do we both need to attend?
Couples therapy works best when both partners come. If your partner isn't ready yet, individual therapy can be a helpful place to start, and they're welcome to join later.
Will the therapist take sides?
No. Your therapist supports the relationship and both of you equally, helping each partner feel heard.
Can we join sessions from different places?
Yes. Sessions are by secure video, so you can join together or from separate locations, as long as you're both in a state we serve: Oregon, Washington, Kentucky, or Alabama.
Does insurance cover couples therapy?
Coverage for couples therapy varies by plan. We'll check your benefits before your first session and walk you through your options.
Do you work with poly and ENM relationships?
Yes. Polyamory and ENM are a focus of our practice. We help with agreements, boundaries, jealousy, and communication between partners.
What approaches do you use?
Our therapists draw on evidence-based methods such as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), tailored to the two of you.
Is it too late for us?
Couples come to us at every stage, including when things feel close to the end. If you're both willing to show up, there's work we can do together.
Do you offer evening and weekend sessions?
Yes. We have late evening and weekend times, which makes it easier to find a slot that works for both schedules.
Your relationship is worth the investment.
Book a free 15-minute consultation. We'll check your insurance and match you with a couples therapist who fits you both.
How to get started
Getting started takes about ten minutes of your time.Reach out
Send a text or fill out the form. Share as much or as little as you want.Have a free 15-minute call
We'll talk about what's going on and match you with the therapist who fits. Insurance gets checked on the same call.Start your first session
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Request your free call
We'll reach out within one business day.
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